I have had my cat (Leia) for about a year and I love her dearly. However I live in student accomondation and it is time to move out and into a proper apartment and they don't accept cats anywhere in Canberra! I looked into group houses and they're the same. I love my cat but i can't let her rule my life, I am also single now so I live by myself and go out a lot and so the cat is sometimes left by itself from like 9am till 9pm or later. I have set a lights to come on when it gets dark but i don't think this is good enough, also when I come home the cat always wants to play but i am never in the mood to play for long (always tired, I work fulltime). At this rate I can't go away without having to board the cat and I feel guilty that she doesn't see me much, but i need my freedom, I am only 21 and not married to my cat, nor do I want to live that way. Should I give the cat up for adoption? Would this be the humane thing to do? I do love and cuddle her and play with her lots, but not enough
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Keep looking! You can definitely find pet-friendly renting if you try harder and expand your search area. Call realtors to find if any of them specialize in pet-friendly housing and ask for referrals from pet professionals in the Canberra and surround areas.
Try offering the landlord an extra security deposit against any damage the cat might do. If you are persistent, you will find one who will be willing.
Never board your cat; always use a petsitter. Cats are territorial and do not like to be left in a strange place when you travel. How often do you go away, really? Once a month? Every night?
If you are only 21 and too tired to play with your cat, you should consult a doctor. You must have a health problem!
A pet is the most lasting relationship you are likely to have, as they live for 20 years while most marriages only last an average of 7! Don't throw this away!
In my opinion, you took on the responsibility of an animal, and you should keep it. To give up your cat would be wrong. Think of it like having a baby.you can't just give back a baby when you decide you need your freedom. You were the one who chose a pet and you should stick with her. Think how you would feel if you were her.
Hey, you can give the cat to your mother/father/brother/sister. Or your best buddy. In that way, you can still see her anytime. If you feel that you're neglecting her, you can compensate by giving the new owner a share with her food/grooming expenses.
I luv cats,but in your case maybe you could leave her with friends or family, so that you can still try to see her as much as possible.
well.. let's see.. you love your cat, but you don't spend enough time with it. so you want your cat to be happy. if you love your cat so much, get a new owner with a house and everything else. make it happy.
I know that it's hard to give up something/someone you love, but I think that it would be in your cats best interest to put her up for adoption, and make sure she finds a good home.
If you love her dearly and you can't take her with you and give her the love she needs then search out a cat lover that will love and care for her. Try to find a home that doesn't have other grown cats because alot of the times they won't get along with each other. If you find a good home and your know your furbaby will be taken care of and loved as much as you love her then you will be ok and so will your cat.
Well, cats are very independent creatures. They love attention and bond very well with their owners and other animals, but they can easily entertain themselves when left alone and have no problem with that most of the time. They sleep a HUGE portion of the day, too. In fact, for owners with this dilemma, I often recommend getting another cat to keep the other company. It helps solve a lot of indoor kitty behavior problems. Or perhaps you could find a house with roommates that already have cats. Usually when the school year starts or ends, there are some rooms that free up in college towns.
Also, I have to say that getting and owning a pet is a responsibility that you took on when you got the cat. You made a commitment to care for that animal for life. Moving isn't really a good excuse to give away your family member. You may just see her as a cat, a pet, but she depends on you and you really aren't doing her or any other cats any favors by dumping her on someone else.
BUT, if you really don't feel like you can handle the responsibility of caring for another living creature, and she would be neglected, perhaps it would be best to find her another home. Contact some local humane groups or put up some flyers or an ad in the local paper. Don't just give her away if you find her a home yourself. By charging an adoption fee, you are helping to ensure that the owner she goes to will value her as more than just a cat/a pet, can afford to have a cat, and feels that she is worth the fee.
Good luck in whatever you decide.
I think you are being very considerate in your feelings about your pet. In your position, I would either advertise for a good home or take it to a cat rescue where you know they would not dispose of her. Some people would just dump her off somewhere so I say good for you. The cat will be happier with a family to enjoy.
I feel for you.
I have smuggled my cat into many places and was careful not to get caught. to keep her occupied, buy toys, and cat nip! and the older she gets the less she'll bug you. Also You can keep her until you find a suitable home for her. I know it's hard to say goodbye but if you find a home with children (over 5) they most likely will treat her good.
Good luck to you
ps. DON'T DUMP HER!
Keep your cat she or he would be broken hearted without you cats become depressed so don,t leave your cat with people he or she don,t know she love you
I think you know you need to give this cat up for adoption and are just seeking approval.
ship her to me, i'm sure we'll become best of friends in no time!
it's obvious you are only holding on to your cat for sentimental reasons. it makes it harder it she's a cute cat. ask around your current area if anyone wants to adopt her. girls are easy targets. they are sure to want a cat.
if you dont think you are spending enough time with your cat then i would suggest to go talk to the SPCA in yout area. They will find a home for the cat where they wil spend more time with the cat. And you could find a differnet animal (like a fish) that dont require a lot of attention.
PLEASE DO NOT TAKE HER TO THE SPCA, HUMANE SOCIETY OR LOCAL SHELTER. THEY PUT DOWN 80% OF THE ANIMALS THAT WALK IN THE DOOR.
MOSTLY DUE TO LACK OF SPACE.AND FUNDING.
SINCE SHE IS FULL GROWN THE LIKELYHOOD OF HER BEING ADOPTED IS SLIM.
MILLIONS OF CATS ARE HOMELESS AND MOST SADLY DONT GET ADOPTED.
IF YOU MUST GET RID OF HER THEN FIND SOMEONE YOU KNOW AND TRUST.
LAST RESORT PETFINDER.COM IS GOOD TO FIND RESCUE GROUPS THAT WONT PUT HER DOWN BUT THEY ARE OFTEN FULL.
you should have thought about all of these things before taking on a helpless animal who depends on you. you need to problem solve and figure out a way to keep the cat, or find her a loving good home. DO NOT PAWN HER OFF ON SOME SHELTER THAT WILL JUST KILL HER!! cats are very independent creatures and if you could find a way to keep her i am sure she wouldnt mind being alone a lot.
I wouldn't GIVE HER AWAY!! because i love i mean love.. CATS!! but you don't have enough time. because you have to work and do other stuff. so I'm going to say give her away.
=( she needs someone who plays with her (not that you don't) and other stuff as well. i feel bad for the cute cat.
=(. but whatever you think is best then do it.
i have 4 KITTENS AND SO FAR I GET TO KEEP THEM. OMG!! I FORGOT I MIGHT MOVE OUT OF STATE AND I'M GOING TO HAVE TO LEAVE MY CATS BE HIND NO!!. NO!>. I feel so SAD. omg i forgot..=(-I%26lt;:
well best of luck to both of us. =)-I%26lt;:
You accepted a responsibility, my friend. Regardless of how things have changed since you got your cat, she is YOUR resposibility, period. I am sure you can find sonewhere that will allow you keep your cat, you just aren't looking hard enough. You say you love her, and you can't let her rule your life, but guess what? Pets do that. They are like having children. What if Leia adopted YOU and then wanted to give YOU away or didn't like YOU anymore because she grew up and didn't have time for YOU? Please grow up and be a big boy. Accept your responsibilities, try really hard, and I am sure you can find the answer yourself.
ps
I adopted a dog 4 years ago from an abusive home. She was completely wacked, and tested me in every way possible. I stuck it out because she was my problem, and 4 years later I honestly cannot imaginemy life without her. I was meant to find her and love her uncondtionally, and I did, and I am, and she does the same. She is the best dog/friend ever.
Good luck to you.
Now. as strict as a cat lover I can get. i understand your dilemma all to well. I moved from MI to FL, %26 my landlord said hey, u cant bring your 4 cats. WELL that ended up being an 8 month stress battle on both ends to say the least, but I won-but i know that rip in your gut feeling your going thru. I am a shelter volunteer, and I would say that taking your cat to a shelter- not the humane society or the aspca or blah blah. Find a home run good ol cat shelter/rescue. They take time to know a cats personality to fit them with the right people. And 99% of shelters will heavily screen you before letting you adopt. So finding a cat shelter would be your very best option, other than taking your cat with you. But i admire your courage to know that she could be in a better home.
Now, on finding a good/local cat shelter-
Call the vets around, and ask them if you can have the number for the local cat rescue/shelter.
If that doesnt work,
Call local pet stores around the area- aka Petsmart,Petco etc.. they have adoption days from those shelters once or twice a month. They'll know how to contact them as well.
Good Luck, I wish you and her the best. Keep us updated!
ps:most shelters DON'T put the cats to sleep like the humane society and etc. Just be sure to ask the shelter when you call.
i have a pet cat as well and knows how you feels! i guess you will have to find another who will care and love leia as you have. a pet is for life!!
Hi there.I believe you truly would like to do the best for all things considered. However, only you can find it within yourself to weigh both sides of the facts you've presented.
A pet companion taken in should be with us for their lifetime at all costs, but then there are exceptions where we need to put their needs before ourselves and provide for their best interests. Again, this is something you have to decide rather than accepting the opinions of strangers in a consentual survey.
If you do decide to place Leia up for adoption please consider finding a home on your own for her before taking her to the local SPCA shelter. Here's a website that is located in Canburra and surrounding communities to list an online ad for pet cats:
http://www.cat-match.com.au/(5xfz5r555gc.
CATMATCH began with an idea to help reduce the tens of thousands of cats and kittens that are put to sleep each year because they can't find a home and someone to care for them. And yet there are people like you who would enjoy life with a cat.
CATMATCH is a FREE service designed to help you find your purr-fect match easily
Being left alone in the house when you're away is not a big problem for cats. I am also sure there are places where you can have a cat, I can't believe there is no one in Canberra who has one in their flat! Anyway, don't give it to a foundation or sth, she might live the rest of her life in a cage or be put down. If you can find a nice home for her, with responsible people who won't give her up, she can go there. Make sure she gets used to them and the house while you are there - you might have to visit them every day for some time.
I think it is a very difficult decision to give up your cat and not knowing for sure, what kind of home or where your cat would be living. I commend you for trying to think and do the right thing, for your cat. I think that the decision seems to be made for you by saying no place you will be moving to takes cats, so that's pretty much your answer, like it or not. : ( I am sorry for both you and the cat because as much as you are still young and all, you've grown a bond and it sounds like you really do care for her. Sometimes out of that love, it is best to do the right thing for the cat! I think it would be great if you could work it out to keep her but it just doesn't sound possible. Therefore, I would say to have your cat adopted, to a good home. Ask even if you can check the home out and what the situation is. That may also help you and even stay in touch with the person or people if you can to see Leia. I'll keep you in my thoughts. Good luck to you! Sounds like you are starting a whole new phase, a new chapter in your life, take care. : )
Keep it!
OR maybe give it to a friend to look after while you are in your situation. do not sell it!! It is NOT property, it is a living creature - therefore not actual property.
Maybe your family or a friend can look after your cat! so then you can always go and see her from time to time and see how shes getting on!
What a shame, that is a sad story. It does appear that she may be better off going to a new home if you can find decent and kind people to take her. Of course circumstances change, and how could you predict that things would change like this so don't feel bad about getting a cat in the first place, no one can guarantee that they will always be in a situation where they are the perfect owner for the rest of their pets life, we can but hope that we will always be able to provide for them. If you can't then it is only fair to give her up for adoption to someone who can give her the time and affection she needs.
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