serious question this time (for once) Ive had my cat, tallulah for years now but a few months ago i took in 2 kittens, prob is, our tallulah hates them, even now she kicks off when they are in the same room, she even hisses at me when i feed her. This is the same cat who used to sleep on my face all night coz she couldnt be away from me for a second. She still has a hug but if the little intruders come near me she kicks off, what do ya do?? And before you say it I'm not parting with any of them!
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I Have the same problem.try stroking your older cat then one of the kittens. the theory is that you transfer smells . the elder cat doesn't attack herself so may take to the kitten. I have had my Cats for just under two years and the elder of the three still doesn't like them. some cats in time accept the new additions where as you may find this may never happen. I've tried pleading, shouting, treating, segregation.threatening with bad cats home, sending to her room.kisses %26 cuddles.but no she still hands out the daily slaps when passing them!! >^..^%26lt;
just keep showing them love you may get them use to it and break them down
give her some one on one quality time, it may not work but atleast you wont feel so guilty
don't worry they just have to have time to get to know each over then every think will be normal.
this cat has tried to kill you, by sleeping on your face.
You must slaughter it, next full moon.
It is evil.
Make the kittens watch. They wont mess with you.
give your first cat more time to get used to the newcomers. I have taken in many cats over my lifetime and the first few months are rough. She may never like the new cats but over time you may be surprised at who will curl up with who.
she will eventually get use to it.
One thing you can do is lock them in an empty area together. Your 2 year old cat should get use to the kittens, its kinda like jealousy right now, she doesnt see why you brought other animals in. Just make sure you give her plenty of attention too if not more because she thinks she lives there so she has to protect the house from other animals that try to come in :)
tallulah is just jelis of the kittents so some times play with all of them at the same time so they all have fun
The problem maybe jelousy. Sometimes when older cats that have never had any companions suddenly get new little bundles in the house they get very upset. Just give it some time and make sure you spread the love and affection not just to the kittens but to the older cat as well. sometimes it is just better to keep them away from each other until the older cat is ready to accept new company. hope this helps.
maybe shes jealouse
The kittens will learn to leave her alone. Show her a little extra attention from you. Separate them. Put Tallulah in your bedroom and shut the door. Keep the kittens in another room. It will work itself out. They will grow up bigger, and They will learn to live amongst one another. I have the same situation, except with 3 kittens ! But, they are outside.
She has got the hump like a child who is not the one and only anymore she is jealous. Ignore it, she will get over it and probably box the kittens from time to time to show whose boss. In time things will settle down. Tallulah has had her nose knocked out of joint just for a little while and is sulking. Cats are very good at that!
spend more time with Tallulah
1)Exclude the kittens from at least one room your adult cat has access to, so that she feels safe, to begin with.
2)You need to re-introduce them, properly. This is a fairly time-consuming procedure but worthwhile. Lock your cats in separate rooms where they can't see each other for a few days. Then exchange their bedding.
After anouther day or so, put the new cats in a crate or carry box and let your old cat sniff them. Then shut them in separate rooms again. Repeat this crate thing, building up the time they are in the same room.
AFter a few days, with you on standby, release them into the same room together, with no crate. Again, build up th time they spend soing this and they should all get used to it.
3)This process can be helped by plugging in a Feliway adaptor or two.
Good luck!
it takes time for cats to get used to one another. you will just have to patient i am afraid.
Yes, sometimes it works out like this. If it's been a few months chances are it's not going to improve drastically. At best they may end up tolerating each other. Make sure you have some quality Tallulah time every day. She'd perhaps feel happier fed in a different room to the others. Maybe you could shut the other 2 out the bedroom and just allow her to sleep with you.
Continue to make her feel special and just accept that she'll have hissy-fits from time to time. Good luck.
OMG the same thing happened when I brought Foxxy into my house. Actually Lucky's house. She growled and hissed and stomped around and guarded 2 food and 1 water bowl.
She was always smacking little Foxxy then running away. She stopped sleeping in my bed, turned away when I went to pet her, climbed to the highest point in the house and made angry faces at everyone below her.
She was so sassy and upset I thought she'd hate me forever!
She only perked up when she heard the tuna can being opened and when I shook the pounce can.
It took nearly 3 months and alot of babying, spoiling, petting, hugs,kisses, tuna,ect. To get her "normal" again.
She still swats at Foxxy but only when Foxxy is to close.
Foxxy does chase Lucky around. She tries to play. I feel bad when Lucky rejects her.
All she does now is sit quietly watching. If a cat gets out of hand Lucky regulates them.
She was traumatized when a new, little female showed up. Foxxy being a kitten was exploring everything, everywhere.
Lucky wanted HER turf left alone.
So long assed story short it takes time and patience. Spoil Tallulah like there is no tomorrow. Give her alot of individual attention and praise. Carry her to your room at night and lock the others out. She'll see "her" bed empty and will feel better eventually.
It takes a long time to learn new things and put them into effect.
She and the others WILL be ok :)
Good luck with your baby's
She will eventually get used to them.
It took ours about a year, but she's ok now.
I have a grumble-cat too. Skye, my oldest, HATES my 17-month old Tonkinese and my 6-month-old Himalayan. Skye has been on a low rumble now for the last 16 months-- ever since I brought the Tonk home. And Skye gets the first and best of everything! Yet she loved my other 2 Himalayans who have since passed away. one to lymphosarcoma and the other to adenocarcinoma. (Hmmm. had quite a run with cancer!).
Had Tallulah been an "only child" until now? If so, that might be your answer. Just continue to love on her, in private, with no kittens around. Feed her alone so that she doesn't feel like the kits will steal her food, her love, her bed, etc. While that might not be the total cure-- Skye STILL hisses and growls-- it will go a long way. Your old-timer may continue to grump and fuss even despite all you do. But just being there for her is all you CAN do. Don't take it personally! ;)
Good luck!
Your cat is thinking where the hell did these come from, there not mine, she resents the fact that there are other "cats" about cos they have invaded her territory, she feels betrayed, the kittens couldn't care less but your tallulah is a bit peeved off bless her, why did you do what you did? She will settle but it will take a long time, she needs to know that she is still "top cat" Good Luck.
No, no, no! I'd never suggest you get rid of them! Show Tallu a lot of extra love, even chase her down to pet her if she's being a snip. My older kits didn't like it when I brought in the Baby, but They finally figured out they weren't getting less love, or food, or anything else. Princess still acts stinky once in a while, but she's just like that. The Captain is back to being my boy, and I'll bet your girl will get back to being lovey with you eventually. It takes time. Also, she's not a young cat, and the little guys probably want to play with her, it may give her a new lease on life, or really tick her off. Captain Worf is 9 now, and he plays like a big kitten with Baby, but it took a while.
Time will heal, hopefully.
Perhaps she doesn't feel as loved as she did. Spend more time with her and slowly interduce the kittens to here, let her get use to them considering before the house was hers and now she must share, cats have a habit of fighting for what is theirs, but in some cases they run out of fear or wanting nothing to do with them, take some time out and show her you still love her just as much as you did before and nothing as change.
Tallulah's jealous, she doesn't want to share you and your love with the kittens, it's not easy to overcome but have a Tallulah day where you spend the whole day with her alone, feed her her favourite treats by hand, brush her fur(not with brush used on kittens!). Make a big fuss of her and don't wear anything that would have the scent of the kittens on. do this at least once a week. We were in the same boat, a kitten found in the road came into our house, but our old mog lost out despite our best efforts.
They wll learn to tolerate each other given time. Its good you're not getting rid of them. Your first cat is just a bit jealous but keep hugging her and she'll feel less threatened.
she needs to know that she's still your number one. my cat used to get upset if he wasnt the first to be fed, i had to feed him first everytime so he knew he was boss.
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